Are some people born confident?

If you think some people are born confident, you’re not alone. A lot of people will agree with you because they’re convinced that some people are just lucky because they’re ‘born’ confident. But is this really true?

We are born with the nucleus of a personality and this stem grows as we develop and mature. But actually, in terms of pure confidence, at birth we’re all born on a level playing field. We all start together at the same point on the path to self confidence. If you continue to think you’re at a disadvantage to confident people because you weren’t born confident, then the playing field that used to be level will turn into a steeper and steeper upward climb.

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Self confidence is an attitude; it’s a state of mind that develops

Some people accept this statement but don’t really believe it.

It might help to think of confidence as a skill that relates to your attitude and your state of mind. It isn’t something concrete or something of substance that you can touch or put your finger on, but it is tangible. Controlling your state of mind, thinking positively and feeling that you can change for the better is one of the first steps on the road to building confidence. Simple things like learning how to use your body language effectively can really help to build your self confidence.

You can acquire self confidence at any stage in your life. You can learn how to feel and come across with confidence as you grow and mature. Everyone can do this. We all have the opportunity to build our self confidence as our lives move on. The key is to treat confidence as a skill. You really CAN learn how to become more confident.

Think back to other skills you’ve learnt as your life has moved on, for example reading, writing, riding a bike, or driving a car and treat building confidence in the same way. Riding a bike is a good example – you probably fell off a few times, maybe got a few cuts and scrapes, perhaps a broken bone .. but did that stop you getting back on? Probably not. You knew what you wanted to achieve and you didn’t let failure stop you.

Well – approach building confidence in the same way. Accept that sometimes you will fail but always learn from the experience, then get up and have another go.